Simplified 365: The Kitchen - Day 1: What's Your Why?

Simplified 365 - Day 1 - What's Your Why?

Before You Start

Your kitchen is the heart and soul of your house.  Notice how no matter how many people you invite over for dinner, they all manage to cram in and around the kitchen while you’re cooking.  We’re drawn there by our need to be nourished.  

Now look around your kitchen.  Is it nourishing you or making you want to throw your cookbooks through your window?

Here are a few questions to answer.  Write them down in your journal or print this page.  This should take you about 10 minutes.  

1.  What do I absolutely hate about my kitchen? (Frustrated? Disorganized? Embarrassed?)

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2.  Why? (I can’t find what I need.  I don’t think I’m a good cook.)

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3.  What feelings does my kitchen bring up? (Overwhelmed? Sad? Disgusted? Angry? Anxious? Embarrassed?)

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4. How do I want to feel in my kitchen? (Empowered? Loving? Caring?)

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5. When it’s time to cook, what specific areas make you shudder? The spices? The piles of papers on the counters? The kids’ backpacks on the floor? The green slimy stuff in the fridge that you’re too scared to touch to throw away? The cords for iEverything?

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Ok, now we have our general feelings in mind, let’s sit with them for a bit.  So you’re feeling anxious in the kitchen, maybe a bit overwhelmed. Disgusted by the layer of food goo on everything. Are there any limiting beliefs that come up? What stories are you telling yourself?

 

I just don’t have time to clean this. 

I’ll never be organized.

What’s the difference, it’s just going to get dirty again anyway. 

No one else will help me keep it clean. 

No one appreciates it when it’s clean. 

I’m not a good cook, I don’t really deserve to have a nice kitchen. 

Our appliances are old and our kitchen is outdated, why spend time on it. 

 

Let’s discuss these.  

You don’t have time to clean it. But you do have time to search your cabinets for the spice you need, not find it and then go to the store to get it?  

I’ll never be organized.  After working with a few hundred clients, I’ve come across approximately 2 that were truly disorganized.  The rest just needed to actually put 5 hours down on their calendar to work with me so that they could allow themselves to finally work on their clutter.  I’m there as a motivator and a guide, most people already know how to organize.  I’m betting you do too, you just need to make the time.

It’s just going to get dirty anyway. True.  But you’ll feel better if you clean it.  What if restaurants said “well, it’s just going to get dirty again tomorrow, why bother cleaning it?”  You wouldn’t eat there, would you?  You expect them to clean it because it’s sanitary.  So get in there and get scrubbing.  Focus on the movements and make it a meditation.  A time to lose yourself in the moment and forget about your worries. 

No one else will help me keep it clean.  They won’t?  Ok.  But I’d be willing to bet that if they started coming home to a clean kitchen, they’d feel more embarrassed to make a mess.  Especially if you have a talk with them about wanting to try something new and needing their help.  

No one else appreciates it when it’s clean.  Maybe they don’t, but you will.  And that’s enough.

I’m not a good cook.  Yeah, well, I can burn water.  But seriously, no one’s handing out Michelin stars, you just need a sanitary, calm place to prepare your meals.  Your meals keep you alive.  For that reason alone, you deserve to have a nice kitchen. 

My kitchen is old and dated.  Well, pour on some extra elbow grease and a coat of paint.  The Joneses are in debt and mortgaged up to their eyeballs.  Appreciate the workhorses you already own.  Trust me, they are fine.  And if your friends are secretly talking about your “dated” kitchen behind your back, well, you guessed it.  They aren’t really your friends.  

As you work through and question these beliefs, see what you can leave behind.  Here's to an empowering new year!

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